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Priority in the path
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DEAR MAN
Start here when goal effectiveness and clearly representing a request are central.
GIVE
Start here when contact should stay warm, validating, and relationship-serving.
FAST
Start here when self-respect and fair steadiness must be protected.
Mindfulness What-Skills
Start here when the basic mindfulness moves must first be ordered.
ABC PLEASE Skills
Start here when long-term protective factors and stabilization paths are sought.
What this is about
A skill bundle brings several components together into a shared structure. Orientation therefore means both finding the relevant family and understanding how its steps fit together. DEAR MAN, GIVE and FAST address interpersonal concerns; other families address distress tolerance or preventive development through ABC PLEASE.
The acronyms identify the components. STOP means Stop, Take a step back, Observe and Proceed mindfully. TIP includes Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing and Paired muscle relaxation. DEAR MAN combines Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear confident and Negotiate. GIVE stands for Gentle, Interested, Validate and Easy manner; FAST for Fair, no Apologies, Stick to values and Truthful. ABC PLEASE brings together resource building and the reduction of emotional vulnerability. Each bundle page explains its components and links to their individual entries.
Differences in detail
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DEAR MAN
- Primary question
- How do I effectively represent a request, ask, or boundary?
- Direction
- Structure goal effectiveness and the clear representation of a request.
- Typical context
- Requests, negotiations, demands, or clearly representing a goal.
- structures goal effectiveness and clearly representing a request
- fits requests, negotiations, demands, or firmly representing a goal
- asks first: how do I represent a request, ask, or limit effectively?
GIVE
- Primary question
- How do I keep contact warm, validating, and relationship-supportive?
- Direction
- Secure relationship effectiveness and validation-centered contact.
- Typical context
- Sensitive conversations, de-escalation, and relationship care.
- secures relationship effectiveness and validation proximity in contact
- fits delicate conversations, de-escalation, and relationship care
- asks first: how do I keep contact warm, validating, and relationship-serving?
FAST
- Primary question
- How do I stay fair and self-respecting without betraying myself?
- Direction
- Protect self-respect, integrity, and fair firmness.
- Typical context
- Boundaries, guilt, self-betrayal, or pressure to adapt.
- protects self-respect, integrity, and fair steadiness
- fits limits, guilt, self-betrayal, or pressure to conform
- asks first: how do I stay fair and self-respecting without betraying myself?
Mindfulness What-Skills
- Primary question
- Which basic movements of mindfulness belong together here?
- Direction
- Organize Observe, Describe, and Participate as a shared mindfulness practice.
- Typical context
- Mindfulness still feels too diffuse and first needs a basic structure.
- orders observe, describe, and participate as a shared mindfulness practice
- fits when mindfulness still feels too diffuse and needs basic structure
- asks first: which basic moves of mindfulness belong together here?
ABC PLEASE Skills
- Primary question
- Which protective factors and building paths stabilize me over time?
- Direction
- Bundle positive emotions, self-efficacy, and bodily stabilization into a protective system.
- Typical context
- Longer-term stabilization, protective factors, and vulnerability reduction are being sought.
- bundles positive emotions, self-efficacy, and bodily stabilization
- fits longer-term stabilization, protective factors, and vulnerability reduction
- asks first: which protective factors and building paths stabilize me over time?
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