Which Skill Helps Me First?

Question navigationInitial skill orientationInitial skill direction

If you don't want to search first, but rather find the right first skill room.

Create a real first step for situations in which it is not yet clear which skill room should be entered first.

When does this fit?

If, before choosing a specific skill, you first need orientation about the appropriate basic direction.

Priority in the path

This node sits close to acute crisis and should be read more as an early step than as later deepening.

What this is about

This navigation question addresses one of the most practical challenges in DBT: when distress is high, which skill should be used first? The answer depends on the level of arousal and the source of the problem. If physiological arousal is extreme — at the skills breakdown point — TIP skills come first, because they are the only skills that work when thinking has become impossible. If arousal is high but thinking is still possible, STOP provides a pause.

If the emotion does not fit the facts, Check the Facts leads to Opposite Action. If it does fit the facts, Problem Solving is needed. If the situation cannot be changed, distress tolerance and radical acceptance apply. The question guides users through a decision tree that matches skill to situation.

Further reading Linehan Manual — Ch. 10

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If the right basic direction is sought first and not the individual skill.

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If, before choosing a specific skill, you first need orientation about the appropriate basic direction.

Create a real first step for situations in which it is not yet clear which skill room should be entered first.
When there is stress, but the starting point between enduring, regulating and changing remains unclear.
If, before choosing a specific skill, you first need orientation about the appropriate basic direction.

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