Anger or Irritation
For intense anger, irritability or proximity to escalation.
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What this is about
Anger in DBT is understood as a primary emotion with a biological function but a high risk of interpersonal damage. Its rapid escalation makes it one of the most challenging emotions to regulate. The distinction from irritability is clinically important: irritability is more chronic and diffuse, while anger tends to escalate in response to specific triggers.
Relevant skill categories are emotion regulation (check-the-facts, opposite action to anger), interpersonal effectiveness for managing relational impact, and distress tolerance during escalated peaks. The most frequent error is applying problem-solving prematurely — before physiological arousal decreases, repair attempts tend to make things worse. Body-based cooling (physical exercise, cold water) has stronger evidence than cognitive reframing at peak activation.
How this emotion shows up
Body signals, typical action urge, and course as orientation for entering fitting skills.
- BodyFeeling of heat in the face and neck, increased muscle tension (jaw, shoulders, hands), accelerated pulse, tense stomach, feeling of pressure in the head
- Action urgeAttacking or confronting, enforcing boundaries loudly and directly, controlling the situation, leaving or withdrawing, expressing through voice or movement
- Course and intensityCourse from mild irritability to explosive escalation. The increase usually occurs quickly (seconds to minutes), but can also persist for a long time as a background grudge. Cooling down takes time.
First entry (2)
The most direct first step for this situation.
Check the Facts
If before opposing action or problem solving, it must first be checked whether the emotion and its intensity are appropriate to the facts.
Also in: Mindfulness
Opposite Action
If Check the Facts speaks against the emotional reaction direction and the situation itself does not need to be changed primarily.
Also in: Distress Tolerance
Orient (3)
Helps frame the situation and gain an overview.
How Do I Change an Unwanted Emotion?
If, after Check the Facts, the subsequent decision is needed between changing, letting the emotion follow or holding on to it.
Also in: Emotion Regulation
Mindfulness of Current Emotions
When emotion avoidance magnifies the problem and mindful contact with the present feeling is needed first.
Also in: Distress Tolerance · Mindfulness
Recognizing Emotions
If before emotion regulation, checking the facts or choosing a skill, it must first be recognized more clearly what is actually happening emotionally.
Also in: Mindfulness
Apply (6)
Concrete exercises and skills for the situation.
Figuring Out How to Change Unwanted Emotions
If, after checking the facts, it is not the term that is used, but the specific next direction of action.
Opposite Action Worksheet
When Opposite Action needs to be worked out not just as an idea, but as a planned change in behavior.
Problem Solving
When Check the Facts shows that it is not the emotion that should be corrected, but the real problem situation that should be dealt with.
Also in: Distress Tolerance · Interpersonal Effectiveness
Check the Facts Worksheet
When Check the Facts needs to not only be understood, but actually applied to a real situation.
Problem Solving Worksheet
If problem solving should be structured specifically in writing instead of just remaining visible as a general skill space.
Loving Kindness Worksheet
If Loving Kindness is not only to be understood, but also to be practiced as a repeatable practice for specific people and situations.
Also in: Emotion Regulation · Interpersonal Effectiveness
Stabilize (2)
Supports calming and regulation in the situation.
STOP Skill
If before any further analysis, communication or regulation, the reflexive further reaction must first be stopped.
Also in: Emotion Regulation · Interpersonal Effectiveness
STOP: Take a Step Back
When it is not necessary to intervene immediately, but rather to gain a small distance so that you do not continue to act reflexively.